Next up, of course, is the wedding planning, which is - let's be honest - a bit of a stressful time. You don't want to appear to the scrimping, but you are equally well aware that your budget is becoming a fading memory.
You will hopefully find that your friends and relatives who have been through the same situation will be looking to help out via the gift list.
It's worth thinking this one through if you want to maximise the opportunity, rather than ending up with three vacuum cleaners or a set of dinner plates which you never use because they won't go in the dishwasher.
My hunch is that people are increasingly accepting of couples who don't just go for the usual list of things for their houses. By the time many people get married, they may well have a house full of stuff and money towards something big will be more useful.
If you go for a traditional wedding list, then three of the most popular options in the UK are:
- Amazon, which we used for our wedding list. We liked Amazon because we found that prices on offer were very low, and there was a huge range of products on offer. The main issues we found were that prices fluctuate a lot and that if Amazon isn't the cheapest option then it will default to a third party seller (not a big issue, but I prefer buying from Amazon direct). The items also arrive as people order them, rather than in one go, which is fine if you are at home a lot or have helpful neighbours. It can be a bit tricky if you have 100 presents arriving over the space of three months and you are out most of the week.
- John Lewis tends to offer rather classy branded products, although there are some lower priced own branded items too. You can also choose for guests to give donations to charity or buy you a gift card. You can get people to pay towards a honeymoon, but only if you book through a particular agent.
- Debenhams Wedding List offers a £50 giftcard when your guests have spent £250. The range is pretty decent and I would say fairly similar to John Lewis.
If you would rather guests put money towards a honeymoon, you might consider a company such as HoneyFund. Most options are free, although you can upgrade to make the whole thing look a bit swankier and personalised.
It's also worth saying that you don't necessarily have to save towards a honeymoon. You could just choose a big item (perhaps a car) and ask your guests to put some money towards it.
It's got to be better than ending up with a house full of photo frames you don't want...